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Perhaps you’ve been thinking for a long time that there are changes you’d like to make in your life, and, you didn’t know where to begin. Now is the time, and Dr. Sue can help. Call or email Sue today to get your first appointment and get started making the changes you want in life.

Advantages of Phone Counseling
  • Greater privacy and anonymity. This encourages a deeper level of honesty, disclosure and receptivity.
  • More convenient and flexible. Allows you to schedule sessions according to your needs and availability.
  • Direct access in crisis situations. In-person counseling generally requires requires setting an appointment weeks or months in advance.
  • Saves time, energy and effort. No travel time, parking difficulties or waiting rooms.
  • Free of geographic limitations. Gives you the advantage of counseling with a professional not available in your area.

Susan has a PhD in psychology and counseling dealing with emotions: discovery and release with resultant freedom. Her therapy specialties are copendency, bereavement counseling, addition recovery, and mentor coaching, and the financial and marriage issues that come with them, which make her a unique coach. She can deal with emotions and release and clear out the painful past even if you can’t remember it very well. She has been mentor coaching for years, helping other coaches or would be counselors to pass this on in a sophisticated way which really helps people get what they want. Her online blog contains articles on many helpful topics.

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Sustained Sobriety in Tranquil Cape Retreat

Ixande drug rehabilitation centre in Cape Town has recently opened its Sober Living House in Cape Town. A sober house is a safe and secure environment that provides people leaving rehabilitation centres the opportunity to solidify and reinforce the new behaviours they have learned whilst being there. Addictions come in many forms, but all of them are progressive and fueled by compulsive behavior. Every year thousands of people worldwide are admitted in to drug rehabilitation centres, clinics and treatment centres for a variety of addictive behaviors, ranging from sex addiction, drug addiction to online gaming addiction.

So often people leave the safety of the rehab or clinic where they have been, full of optimism and equipped with some new tools for coping with the stressors and factors that led to them become addicts, only to relapse and fall back into their old patterns of addiction shortly after leaving. There are several opinions on why this may happen. Some say that the person had not yet hit their rock bottom and was not serious about abstaining from their drug of choice, or gambling or alcohol, or whatever their problem may have been. There are many however, that feel that the 28-day detox/rehabilitation programme (which is covered by many medical aid plans) offered is simply not enough to change years of learned addictive behavior. For example, if you have been an alcoholic for 15 years and you are admitted willingly into a drug rehabilitation centre like Ixande rehab Cape Town, and you engage to best of your ability and have a strong desire to quit drinking, is 28 days really enough to fortify you and give you the strength to remain abstinent? The problem lies not only in that 28 days is insufficient time to build a strong enough foundation for recovery and get to the bottom of the symptoms of the disease, but also, that whilst in a drug rehabilitation centre or clinic, the environment is extremely safe and controlled. The patients are completely insulated from people, places and things that may remind them of or trigger memories of the blissful euphoric escape experienced through using their drug of choice. During the standard 28-day drug rehabilitation period, patients are virtually completely sheltered from anything that might distract them from the treatment. Mobile phones, laptops, social media etc are all confiscated and in some cases limited usage for 30 minutes weekly is permitted. So, yes, these patients manage to detox, they manage to get some insight into how destructive their behaviours have been and they are given tools on how to manage their addiction. But this is all taking place in the safety of the treatment centre.

All it takes is for somebody who has just recently left treatment, to return to a toxic relationship, have an argument and without giving it any thought, is triggered to pick up a drink, use their drug of choice or gamble, or succumb to whatever addictive behaviour it was that they were trying to manage. The concept of the sober living house was conceived of when people began to realize the need for a sober and transitional space that allows for a person to bridge the gap between the complete safety and insulation of primary care in a drug rehabilitation centre and the life they lead prior to being admitted for treatment. In most cases, sober houses provide a communal living environment for like-minded people who are committed to maintaining their sobriety. Ixande’s sober living house in situated nearby the vibrant Muizenberg beachfront. The sober house can accommodate a maximum of twelve people and comes with free Wi-Fi, DsTV, a live in house manager, comfortably furnished rooms and 24hr video surveillance. Research has proven that time spent living in a peer based sober house maximizes the chances of an addict’s recovery. Additional therapy support is provided by Ixande in Kenilworth in the form of two aftercare sessions per week. These sessions are held on a Tuesday and a Thursday and are each 3 hours long. In addition to this there are several 12 Step meeting in the area in close proximity to the sober house. For meetings that are not within easy access, lifting arrangements can be made.

 

Indications of Depression

Depression affects people in different ways and for different reasons. Its causes are many and each person needs to be spoken with as a unique individual. It is not an event but a continual experience of negative thoughts and unhappy feelings.
You may not know what it is that is causing these gloomy days and that is why I am writing these indications of depression so in case you are experiencing any of them you might identify what is going on for you and get some relief.
To be on the safe side, be sure to see a professional health practitioner, to make sure what you are experiencing isn’t a different serious medical condition or illness.
Here are SOME of the indications of depression:
1. Feeling of sadness that is not easily identified to specific events. Almost anything of a sad nature brings you to tears and you may find yourself sobbing, knowing it has to be more than what is happening at the moment. Or you may have frozen tears, wanting to cry but can’t; you walk around in a state of perpetual sadness and gloom.
2. Feeling alone and lonely. Thinking that no one understands you or your problems.
3. Keeping everything you feel inside, not sharing your troubles with anyone else. Finding it difficult to pick up the phone and say what is bothering you. You may even con yourself into thinking this is heroic, not wanting to bother anyone with your problems.
4. Wanting to go back to sleep as soon as you wake up. Being drawn to sleep or lie in bed often and/or for long periods of time. Wanting to pull the covers over your head.
5. Feeling tired and run down with no pep or enthusiasm for anything. Losing interest in things and people around you. Having trouble FEELING anything except a vague emotional pain in the center of your being.
6. Feeling hopeless, not believing anything will get any better. Unable to enjoy the day or often even incidents that would normally make you feel pleased or happy.
7. Feeling angry, irritated, frustrated in a general way. Being critical and judgmental of people and things on a continual basis.
8. Not feeling a spiritual connection to any Higher Power or any source greater than yourself that could be of solace to you. Sensing there isn’t any force for good in the universe and everything is just a random catastrophe.
9. Critical, negative thinking, often bordering on a paranoid stance: thinking everyone is out to get you or you are being punished for something
10. Trouble concentrating and focusing. Having difficulty making goals and certainly having trouble attaining them. Not being able to follow through on tasks, becoming easily distracted and confused.

Depression is anything from a mild dissatisfaction in life to suicidal thoughts and feelings. It is treatable and can be cured if care is maintained. It is important to get help if you think you fit into at least 3 of these indications. Trust yourself to be honest in answering these inside yourself and reach out if even one of them is truly bothering you.
There are many treatment options available for dealing with depression. One of the most common is prescription antidepressant medications. This can help a large percent of the population but there are side effects and it needs to be accompanied with cognitive counseling.
There are a smaller percentage of people who are unable to take antidepressants, either because of severe side effects or they simply don’t work for them. In that case, coaching and counseling would be most beneficial with someone who has been successful in treating depression.
This article was suggested to me by someone who has experienced depression, and thought it would prove helpful to anyone questioning a vague sense of being lost and forlorn or seriously giving up on life.

If you have lost your joy of life and reason to be, if you feel you are in a downward spiral going nowhere, if you are often feeling immobilized and are having trouble getting things done, do NOT give up hope.

There is light at the end of the tunnel when you face your depression and reach out for help