Solitude and Leadership: A wri…
September 28, 2010
Solitude and Leadership: A writer encourages a group of West Point plebes to practice introspection, concentration… http://bit.ly/ckVe5e
Home is so important for some people
September 25, 2010
Home in so important to me and I have taken good care of the home I fell in love with in Tucson. I have made it exactly the way I want it and after looking at 50 homes to downsize, I have found a way to stay in my home. I wanted to do the “right” thing and agonized about it in the middle of the night for weeks (insomnia)(restless sleep). I had terrible anxierty in the night. It is so wonderful to have made this decision and to be able to sleep again and be at peace. I prayed for the right thing to do and the right person to do the financing with. I have always known God will answer my prayer but sometimes it takes a lot of patience before he does. i was angry at the thought of moving and sad about it, too. I started cleaning out my closet which was filled with letters, cards, photo albums, and everything else you can think of from my parents home and from my kids childhood. Going through so much of that has been really healing and connecting me to my roots again. I had to go through some grieving about my parents being gone. Oh, how I wish they were here! I promised myself that even if I didn’t move, I would sort out and clean out all the closets and drawers and garage. So I am in that process. it is very healing.
Deep permeanting anger needs many sesssions to heal
September 20, 2010
People come to me and want me to fix their anger in 3 months time and we work very hard on it and make some great progress. However, there is an underlying deep and pervasive anger inside the person which takes subtle and deep work over a period of time to transform that. If the person is in denial it makes it very difficult to help them see they have this deep anger. They know their relationships are not right but think it is the other person mostly. I try to gently let them know they are doing themselves in by not dealing with this permeating anger and rage and they can be free if they will but follow some simple instrutions I can give them and we can talk about it as well as do deep process work on it. Counseling and life coaching are ways to do this and I hope you take advantage of it. You can change your attitudes and your life.
How to be free of anger running you
September 16, 2010
When explaining to a client yesterday about being free of anger “running you”, I thought this would make an interesting blog. I’ve done a series on anger which you can find by pressing “next” over and over on my website. However, I never said it quite this way which might be helpful to some of you. When you react off of other people with anger you are in your codependency; it may seem like you are winning but you really are losing. If another person’s behavior is something you don’t like and you have a feeling of anger, think first and then ACT out of your own being by saying what you need and what you do not like. If they don’t listen to you and respond then you are dealing with someone who does not care about your feelings and there is no need to continue the conversation. If you stay angry and argue or try to convince the person you are right you are losing yourself. Holding onto anger is bad for your body and health. If you use that anger to motivate you to do something, it is not coming out of your center but is reactionary to others. It can cause you to do behaviors that will have negative consequences. .Holding onto anger can lead to addictions and abuseive relationships. Depression is anger turned inward. Being angry at yourself is futile. Anger repressed or overt can cause fatigue, insomnia, and pain. Anger held onto will kill love. Experiment with this and see how it feels and what the different results are from different behaviors of yours. You will learn a lot about yourself and free yourself from the control of others.
9/11 Feelings and thoughts
September 11, 2010
When 9/11 happened that year I saw it on tv right when it was happening. A friend called just as I was doing my exercises and said “turn on the tv” and I witnessed the most shocking thing: planes crashing into the twin towers! I was absolutely stunned and then very angry and sad. I followed the news and talked about it as I was releasing my grief. I was amazed at how many people here in Tucson didn’t seem to be upset about it or care much about it. They would say “well, it’s in NY and far from here”. That really disturbed me as I was from Chicago and spent summers in Ohio and then lived in Ct. and spend many week-ends in NYC. It was very dear to my heart and I found some people, like the person who called me, who I could share my grief with. I called my friends who lived in NYC and ones who worked in the twin towers. One friend stopped to do business in Ct. and was late to work and therefore didn’t get in the building when in happened. Another friend’s son was killed in that building. My close friend in NYC was stunned but safe. Here it is years later and people are making a lot out of it, as they should, and I am feeling more deeply than ever the tragedy of that day. I am feeling the horror of human beings doing such cruel and dispicible behaviors. In a way, I am more upset about it now because many people are fighting over the sacred ground. It should be honored and left alone!
